Dear Husband is Out of Action and My Crochet is SufferingBy Veronica Smith – 19 Comments
My Husband is a gym junkie and a typical male. About 3 weeks ago he came home on a Friday (gym day) and said he was sore around the shoulders, not the ‘good’ sore from a good workout, it was actual pain. He goes to the gym 3 times a week. I suggested he have a bit of a break, but he’s male so that didn’t make any sense to him. He then came home the following Monday really sore and by bedtime he was definitely in REAL pain. He popped a large amount of pain killers and acknowledged that maybe he wouldn’t go to the gym Wednesday – I gave up. No sleep that night. By morning he was crippled with pain on the right side back/shoulder and upper arm. His lower arm and hand were numb. Doctors / physio’s / serious pain medication and pending specialist he is still hurting and has numb fingers and arm. It’s been 12 days now.
What’s this go to do with crochet? Apparently everything. I am so out of routine here it is not funny. Not that he contributes around the house ever – he works, brings in the money and does the big maintenance outside. He does get coffee and manages to amuse himself but not with TV. I do the rest of the household stuff – it works well apart from the fact that I am allergic to housework. He is now disrupting my day and I can’t settle to anything. Not that I blame him, I am really worried and it is a horrible situation but the household is all upside down. He’s in pain and he is irritable and bored stupid in front of the TV for 12 days – and little to no sleep. I also have had little to no sleep so that’s probably not helping things.
I have my crochet near my chair and I do pick it up but I cannot concentrate. I am trying to spend time with him and he keeps calling me in to sit with him, however I cannot sit in front of TV for that long – who knew? I thought sitting and watching a good movie and crocheting would be my dream day, possibly would be if it wasn’t forced upon me.
I am up now. It is 5:30am on a Saturday, my sleep in day. I am up because I simply cannot get to sleep after waking at 4. It would be a good time to sleep as he is finally asleep and the kids are still unconscious. I tried crocheting but even on my own it didn’t work. Maybe it’s because I am so tired, maybe it is because I am all out of order, my grip or organization is tenuous at the best of time but now it is gone completely.
I think I am going to put away all that I have out and get something frivolous. At the moment the crochet I have out is the Christmas and birthday presents and associated requests – sort of the ‘have to’ stuff.
Crochet has always been my refuge, my relaxation ‘pill’, my joy. Where did that go? I am hoping if I just grab something that I don’t have to do it will be more pleasurable.
…So I am off to put a coffee on then venture up to the craft room and grab the first pretty ball I see and make something out of it, who knows, it might be my finest work yet. Also I will sit anywhere but where the TV is located.
Wish me luck – I am sure the man of the house will get better, return to the gym soon, and I will be on my way to justifying all the time I crochet because I love it!!!!!
Temporary disability – just as his is.